"I Just Wanna Make You Dance"
-except from the artist formerly known as Puff Daddy.

I have peoples that are commitment-phobic, swingers, cheaters or just plain hoes. Excuse my French, but I got to call it as I see it. Not all of them are, but they know who I am talking about. I can't front it is hard finding that partner or your "soul-mate". I have been in many relationships which most of them didn't last. I can't front I was in that group at a time. By no means am I an expert but I have shared ideas with folks who seem to have their stuff together. I can't give away all the secrets because some folks need to figure it out on their own. However I can best describe it in an analogy.

The relationship between two intimate people is like a dancing. You know like the ABC television show "Dancing with the Stars". First thing first, some you got it some of you don't. Those of you non-rhythmic people get off the dance floor so that others can have a good time. You messing it up for all the good or aspiring dancers. If you want to "mosh" there is a scene for that, so kick rocks. (Get it "Mosh", "rocks", whatever.) Beginners don't be shy. You two step and work your way to the samba in time.

Seriously, relationships are like a well prepared dance routine. There must be some chemistry between the two, first. Communication is definitely needed. Dating is like practicing for the routine. Of course you have to learn the routine together. Stepping on some toes will happen for sure. The point is to learn to understand your partners movements. Learn to read their expressions which tell you, “Oops! I did something wrong.” Learn the approach on helping your partner to improve on their weaknesses.

The movement in the routine can represent the direction or pace of your relationship. It can be fast or slow, technical or relaxed. It may require some jumps, flips, turns and bending in positions that are often very uncomfortable. It may also require some strength for lifting and carrying. There can be times when you are joined at the hip and times where you have solo performances. Regardless it is the unit that audience observes. The routine is give and take. In an eye to eye position, when you move forward your partner goes backward and vice versa. Same as your left is not their left. This is part of the understanding that point of view is different. After some time, things just happen naturally and easily without any hesitations/reservations.

Now you have learned the lambada but don't get too comfortable yet because you
have only mastered the one routine. there are many other steps like the waltz, samba, calypso, hip-hop, ballet which we can say are the life journeys equivalent to marriage, children, work, etc. You can't be great at all but you and your partner can handle them because of the awareness developed on the previous routines.

To all you hot-steppers, shake a leg.